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Finding Happiness: 15 Ways to Achieve Happiness in Life  

2010-12-11 14:34:12|  分类: NOTEBOOK |  标签: |举报 |字号 订阅

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Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success.
------Herman Cain

Happiness is something everyone wants to achieve. While I can’t claim to be the happiest person in the world , I do learn something about it, and here I want to share what I have learnt with you. But, before we start, we should agree on something: our happiness is our responsibility. Your happiness is your responsibility. Don’t blame outside condition or other people if you’re not happy. While things around you could change and go bad, it is you who decide how you will respond to them. You can decide to be happy. With that in mind, here I’d like to share 10 ways to find happiness in your life.

1. Stop comparing yourself with others

Comparing yourself with others won’t do you any good. You will either feel proud when you are above, or feel jealous and frustrated when you are below. None of them brings true happiness. So stop comparing yourself with others and simply be your best.

2. Count your blessings

There are so many things we should be grateful for, but we often forget them. When you realize how blessed you are, you will certainly be happier.

We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.

3. Find your inner voice

To find true happiness, you must first find your inner voice. Slow down and take some quiet time for soul searching. What will make your life meaningful? What is true happiness for you? By knowing what your heart says, it will be easier for you to align with it.

4. Help someone

Giving is an essential key to happiness. While we often think that we will be happier when we receive, the truth is we are happier when we give. This is also one of the most difficult things to apply.

You can apply this by finding someone in need and lending a helping hand. The person could be your family, friend, or even a stranger. You could also donate to a charity.

5. Know yourself

You will be happier if you understand who you are. Taking personality tests or drawing a simple life map could help you recognize who you are.

6. Say thank you

Sometimes we are so accustomed to people around us that we forget to thank to them. So take a little time to do that.

7. Smile

Smiling is a very simple thing to do, and yet it has great effect. There mere act of smiling can brighten your otherwise dark day.

8. Listen more than you speak

You will feel happier not only by understanding yourself, but also by understanding the people around you. One simple way to do that is by listening more than you speak. Try to understand what the other person means before speaking out your thoughts.

9. Stop judging others

Judging others will give you bad feeling toward them and there’s nothing good about that. Instead, you should look at the positive side of them. Sometimes it’s easier to see the others’ weaknesses, but looking at the positive side will brighten their day and your day.

10. Focus on what you can control

Trying to change things beyond your control will only frustrate you. Recognize what you can and can’t control, and focus solely on the things you can control. For instance, you can’t change how people around you behave, but you can change yours. So focus on changing your own behavior instead of changing theirs.

11. Forgive others

Besides forgiving yourself, you should also forgive other people who did wrong to you. Not forgiving them will only hurt you. Again, you should release the burden so that you can find happiness.

To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness.
Robert Muller

12. Accept yourself

You may have some personality traits that you don’t like. For instance, perhaps you are an introvert and you wish you are an extrovert. Or you wish you were born in a different background. This is one thing you can’t control (see #15), so just accept yourself as you are. You are unique, and that’s something you should be grateful for.

13. Know how to deal with problems

Problems will always come your way, so your happiness depends not on whether or not you have problem, but on how good you deal with them. Knowing how to stay calm and how to overcome failure will be helpful.

14. Be a promise keeper

You will find happiness if you stay true to your heart and one way to do that is by being a promise keeper. The more you keep your promise, the more you will be aligned with your conscience and the happier you will be.

15. Spend more quality time with your loved ones

Relationships give us happiness more than any material in the world. So spend more quality time with your loved ones. In such moments, be sure that you devote your attention to them. Divided attention (with your work, for example) will decrease the quality of the time.

There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.
-------George Sand

 

 

 When you feel helpless

当你无助的时候

If your life feels like it is lacking the power that you want and the motivation that you need, sometimes all you have to do is shift your point of view. Realize that life isn’t always fair. Accept what you must, and change what you can. Think before you act. A moment of carelessness or anger can cause years of anguish and reget.

如果你觉得心有余力不足,觉得缺乏前进的动力,有时候你只需要改变思维的角度。要知道生活并非绝对公平。接收即定命运,改变你所能改变的。三思而后行,为一时的疏忽与愤怒所付出的代价是带来数年的痛苦和悔恨。

By training your thoughts to concentrate on the bright side of things, you are more likely to have the incentive to follow through on your goals. You are less likely to be held back by negative ideas that might limit your performance          

试着训练自己的思想朝好的一面看,这样你就会汲取实现目标的动力,而不会因为消极沉沦停滞不前。

Your life can be enhanced, and your happiness enriched, when you choose to change your perspective. Don't leave your future to chance, or wait for things to get better mysteriously on their own. You must go in the direction of your hopes and aspirations. Begin to build your confidence, and work through problems rather than avoid them. Remember that power is not necessarily control over situations, but the ability to deal with whatever comes your way. 

一旦变换看问题的角度,你的生活会豁然开朗,幸福快乐会接踵而来。别交出掌握命运的主动权,也别指望局面会不可思议的好转。你必须与内心希望与热情步调一致。建立自信,敢于与困难短兵相接,而非绕道而行。记住,力量不是驾驭局势的法宝,无坚不摧的能力才是最重要的。

Always believe that good things are possible, and remember that mistakes can be lessons that lead to discoveries. Take your fear and transform it into trust; learn to rise above anxiety and doubt. Turn your "worry hours" into "productive hours". Take the energy that you have wasted and direct it toward every worthwhile effort that you can be involved in. You will see beautiful things happen when you allow yourself to experience the joys of life. You will find happiness when you addopt positive thinking into your daily routine and make it an important part of your world.

请坚信,美好的降临并非不可能,失误也许是成功的前奏。将惶恐化作信任,学会超越担忧和疑虑。让“诚惶诚恐”的时光变得“富有成效”。不要挥霍浪费精力,将它投到有意义的事情中去。当你下意识品尝生命的欢愉时,美好就会出现。当你积极地看待生活,并以此作为你的日常准则时,你就会找到快乐的真谛。

 

 Catch the Star of Your Destiny

摘取命运之星

 

When you live from your Heart, you feel full, rich, and life seems to flow effortlessly. You feel in control, confident, connected to your life's purpose. You feel Joy and deep inner Peace. You feel Alive!

 如果你真心实意地生活,就能感觉到心满意足,生活似乎总是称心如意的。你能掌握命运、充满自信并且实现目标。你能感受到内心的喜悦与宁静。你是那么活力充沛!

  When love radiates from your Heart you feel vibrant, energized and blissful. The feeling of being on purpose inspires you to new heights... some you never dreamed possible.

发自内心的爱让你觉得充满活力、精神焕发和幸福无比。这种感觉能激发你的灵感,攀升生活的高度……这是你以前从没想到过的。

Living from Your Heart keeps you focused on what is most important to you in your life. You move from focusing on conflict to re-focusing on what is most important to you...Your Deepest Heart's Desires.

真心实意地生活让你关注在你生命中最重要的东西。这样你的视线便逐渐远离纷争,转向对你而言更为重要的事情……你那内心深处的渴望。

 In your Heart holds the secret to true happiness. The Secret is Love. Love is the tender expression of the Heart... an expression we all long to feel deep within.

在你心中藏着通往真正幸福的秘密。这个秘密便是爱。爱是心灵的温柔表达……一种我们都渴望深切感受的表达。

Whether you know it or not, one of the most important relationships in your life is with your Soul. Be kind and loving to your Soul, and use your experiences--all of them--as opportunities to nourish your Soul!

  无论你知道与否,你生命中其中一种最重要的关系就是你与心灵的关系。关爱你的心灵,并把你所有的经历,全部的经历,当作滋养心灵的机会。

Catch the star that holds your destiny, the one that forever twinkles within your heart. Take advantage of precious opportunities while they still sparkle before you. Always believe that your ultimate goal is attainable as long as you commit yourself to it.

追随能够改变你命运的那颗星,那颗永远在你心中闪烁的明星。当它在你面前闪耀时,抓住这宝贵的机会。

Though barriers may sometimes stand in the way of your dreams, remember that your destiny is hiding behind them. Accept the fact that not everyone is going to approve of the choices you’ve made, have faith in your judgment, catch the star that twinkles in your heart, and it will lead you to your destiny’s path. Follow that pathway and uncover the sweet sunrises that await you.

尽管实现梦想的途中有时会遇到障碍,要知道这是命运对你的挑战。不是每个人都会赞成你的选择,接受这个现实,并相信自我的判断,追随那颗在你心中闪烁的明星,它会引领你踏上命运的征途。坚持不懈,你就能享受那些幸福时刻。

Take pride in your accomplishments, as they are stepping stones to your dreams. Understand that you may make mistakes, but don’t let them discourage you. Value your capabilities and talents for they are what make you truly unique. The greatest gifts in life are not purchased, but acquired through hard work and determination.

每前进一步,你都应引以为豪,因为它们是你实现梦想的阶梯。要知道在这个过程中你也许会犯错误,但不要气馁。珍视自我的潜能,因为它们使你独一无二。生命中最珍贵的礼物不是花钱买来的,而是通过努力和决心而获取的。

    Find the star that twinkles in your heart for you alone are capable of making your brightest dreams come true. Give your hopes everything you’ve got and you will catch the star that holds your destiny.

寻找心中那颗闪耀的明星,因为只有你自己才能够让美好的梦想变成现实。满怀希望并全力以赴,你就能摘下改变命运的那颗星。

  

 Happiness is a journey

幸福是一个过程

We always convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, than another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren't old enough and we'll be more contet when they are. After that we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. we will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.

我们总是说服自己,认为当我们结婚、生子后日子会过的更加舒心些。然后我们又被那些小鬼的不懂事搞得不顺心,当他们大了些后,情况会好些吧。当孩子到了青春期的时候,(有时)对于如何跟他们好好交流又会使我们很无措。我们都深信当他们过了那个年龄段后,事情就会有些转机。

We always tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together. when we get a nice car, and are able to go on a nice vocation when we retire. The truth is, there's no better time than right now. If not now, when? our life will always be filled with challenges. It's best to admit this to ourselves and decide to be happy anyway.

我们总是对自己说,当另一半有条理的过活时,(我们的)人生就会很圆满。当我们买了一台漂亮的车子后,我们认为可以在年老退休后开去度假。可事实上,再也没有比当下更好的时间段了,要不是现在这时,那么还能是什么时候呢?我们的人生满是各种神奇的未知数。不管怎么说,对你我而言,最好是承认活在当下里的意义然后及时“自己给自己找乐”。

One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred Souza. He said."for a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin-real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, someting to be gotten through firest, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid.

我最看中一段尔弗雷德.苏泽说过的话。他说“一直以来,我感觉的是真正的生活就要来了。但是在前面总有些东西拦在那里,一些问题必须先被搞定后才能进行下一项,比如未完成的工作,(做事时)等着轮到自己的那段时间、等待着交钱的帐单。”

Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life." This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So treasure every moment that you have.

当这些事解决后你才能开始自己的一天。后来我才觉悟到解决这些生活琐事的时候就是我的人生。怀着这样的想法使我认识到幸福是没有方式去追求寻找的。因为寻找幸福的过程本身就是幸福。所以珍惜你所拥有的点点滴滴。

And remember that time waits for no one. So stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school; until you get married, until you get divorced; until you have kids; until you retire; until you get a new car or home; until spring; until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy….

而且还要牢记时光不会等待垂青你我。于事莫等到你毕业之后、重返校园之时再去等待(幸福);莫身陷围城之中,来来往往,进进出出后才去等待(幸福);莫等到你膝下饶子、莫等到你老来归园、莫等到你了自己的新车、莫等到你乔迁新居、莫等到早春迟来、莫等到你重获新生后才认识到人生本是‘莫待来日,及时行乐’……

Happiness is a journey, not a destination.So, work like you don't need money, love like you've never been hurt, And dance like no one's watching.

寻找幸福的过程本身就是幸福,这条路上没有终点站。那么,你就要像不愁薪水那般去工作;敞开心扉那般去欢爱;旁若无人那般去歌舞。

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